Protect Your Mental Health: How to Safely Navigate Online Harassment as a Creator

Blog Post Written By: Melrose Michaels

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When you put yourself out there online, especially as an adult content creator, harassment usually isn’t a matter of “if.” It’s a matter of “when.” I want to say this as loudly as possible for anyone who needs to hear it: Just because online harassment is common, doesn’t mean it should be accepted as normal, or that you have to endure it in silence.

You aren’t powerless. You aren’t alone. And absolutely, you are not doing anything wrong.

In this post, I’ll break down the very tactics and mindset shifts that I use – and have taught to hundreds of creators – to handle online harassment, protect your brand, and keep your mental health intact.

Understanding the Psychology Behind Online Harassment

Let’s start by addressing why harassment happens in the first place, especially in our industry. Harassment isn’t random; it’s often rooted in societal shame, power dynamics, and the desire to intimidate those who disrupt the status quo. For adult content creators, that situation gets amplified. People might see our work as “shameful” or feel threatened by it, and rather than question their beliefs, they attack the people who challenge them. Others, simply put, just want attention.

On top of that, there’s obsession-based harassment, which can be significantly more threatening. These people believe they’re entitled to your time or attention, crossing boundaries in ways that can feel frightening. That’s why it’s so important to recognize the type of harasser you’re dealing with – because different tactics work for trolls than stalkers, and what helps with shame-based bullies won’t work with those whose harassment comes from obsession.

The Golden Rule: Don’t Feed the Trolls

It is so tempting to clap back, defend yourself, or set the record straight when someone attacks you. But here’s the truth: Every time you reply to hate or harassment, you’re giving your harasser what they want – attention. Algorithms pick up on drama and elevate it, regardless of who’s right. That means responding only boosts them and puts their negativity in front of more eyes.

Instead, I recommend what I call the "Digital Rock Technique". Be boring. Be silent. Be immovable. Let your lack of response speak volumes. Use platform tools such as comment filters, restricted word lists, and blocking. If necessary, turn off comments or pin a positive fan comment to the top of your posts. Preserve your energy and your voice for your real supporters, not trolls.

Step-by-Step: Documenting, Reporting, and Blocking

If you’re being harassed, start with documentation. Screenshot everything: usernames, messages, comments, and threats. If it’s a video or voice message, use screen recording. The goal is to collect time-stamped evidence – these are your receipts.

Next, report it. Every platform has harassment reporting tools. Use them immediately, selecting the most relevant category (harassment, hate speech, impersonation, etc.). Then, block the harasser.

Keep a log of every incident – I recommend using Notion or Google Sheets – with details like date, platform, username, and what actions you took. This pattern of evidence is vital, especially if things escalate and you need to involve legal professionals or fill out a police report.

Protecting Your Brand and Reputation

One of the scariest parts about online harassment is the fear it could harm your reputation.

Be proactive rather than reactive:

1. Set up Google alerts for your stage name, real name, and any aliases, so you get notified any time you’re mentioned online.

2. Use content scanning services to check for leaks or impersonations.

3. Claim your username on all major platforms, even if you aren’t actively using them, to prevent impersonators from masquerading as you.

4. Have a public FAQ or bio with links, so fans (or potential clients) have a reliable source of truth about you.

Building a Fortress Around Your Peace

Boundaries aren’t just recommended; they’re essential. Make it clear in your content and captions what’s acceptable. Block hateful comments without warning and encourage your fans to help report threats or inappropriate behaviors they witness.

If you livestream, have a trusted moderator present. You’re allowed – and deserve – a space that’s safe and sexy.

The Emotional Side: Taking Care of Your Mental Health

Dealing with harassment isn’t just tactical; it’s emotional. Don’t be afraid to seek out therapists or support groups that understand sex work. Organizations like Pineapple Support offer low-cost mental health services specifically for the adult industry.

Develop your own de-escalation ritual – whether it’s taking a walk, journaling, or leaning on a friend – to resolve the emotional tension that harassment can create.

You’re Not Alone – Find Your Community

Above all, do not isolate yourself. I created the CEO Society app to provide a free, private, and supportive space just for adult creators to share advice, experience, and get real support – because nobody gets it quite like someone who’s walked the same road.

Online harassment might come with our territory, but it doesn’t control your story. You’re building a real business. Don’t let trolls or haters take that from you, and know that we are strongest together.

PS: If you need support, come join us inside the CEO Society. None of us have to do this alone.